The Subjectivity of Early Childhood on the Loss of a Father: A Phenomenology of Self-Confidence and Prophetic Character
Subjektivitas Anak Usia Dini Atas Kehilangan Ayah: Fenomenologi Kepercayaan Diri dan Karakter Profetik
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https://doi.org/10.26877/paudia.v14i3.2012Keywords:
Subjectivity, Early Childhood, Losing Father, Self-Confidence, Prophetic CharacterAbstract
Abstract
Fathers are not only biological parents, but also play an important role in shaping the self-confidence and identity of young children. The absence of a father, whether physical or emotional, can cause emotional trauma and hinder a child's psychological development from an early age. This study employs a phenomenological method with an Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis (IPA) approach to explore the meaning of the experiences of five young children at TK Taruna Bakti Bandung who grew up without a complete father figure. The findings reveal that the absence of a father significantly impacts the formation of a child's psychological structure and identity, weakening prophetic values such as love, responsibility, justice, and exemplary behavior. This condition also affects spiritual autonomy, social skills, and self-understanding. Patriarchal parenting patterns that marginalize the father's role as a moral-spiritual partner exacerbate the child's developmental conditions. Based on these findings, this study recommends the development of an early childhood education curriculum that is responsive to the needs of children from fatherless families through the integration of prophetic values, the strengthening of emotional literacy, and the cultivation of social skills. Additionally, school-based psychosocial interventions such as small group mentoring, counseling, and the involvement of surrogate father figures are needed to help children build a complete, resilient identity rooted in moral-spiritual values, even without the direct presence of a father.
Abstrak
Ayah bukan hanya orang tua secara biologis, tetapi juga memiliki peran penting dalam membentuk rasa percaya diri dan identitas diri anak usia dini. Ketidakhadiran ayah, baik secara fisik maupun emosional, dapat menimbulkan luka batin dan menghambat perkembangan psikologis anak sejak dini. Penelitian ini menggunakan metode fenomenologis dengan pendekatan Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis (IPA) untuk mengeksplorasi makna pengalaman lima anak usia dini di TK Taruna Bakti Bandung yang tumbuh tanpa figur ayah secara lengkap. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa ketiadaan ayah berdampak signifikan terhadap pembentukan struktur psikologis dan identitas anak, melemahkan nilai-nilai kenabian seperti kasih sayang, tanggung jawab, keadilan, dan keteladanan. Kondisi ini juga berdampak pada perkembangan otonomi spiritual, keterampilan sosial, serta pemahaman diri. Pola asuh patriarki yang meminggirkan peran ayah sebagai mitra moral-spiritual memperburuk kondisi perkembangan anak. Berdasarkan temuan tersebut, penelitian ini merekomendasikan pengembangan kurikulum PAUD yang responsif terhadap kebutuhan anak-anak dari keluarga fatherless melalui integrasi nilai-nilai kenabian, penguatan literasi emosional, dan penanaman keterampilan sosial. Selain itu, dibutuhkan intervensi psikososial berbasis sekolah seperti pendampingan kelompok kecil, konseling, dan pelibatan figur pengganti ayah untuk membantu anak membangun identitas yang utuh, resilien, dan berakar pada nilai moral-spiritual meskipun tanpa kehadiran ayah secara langsung.
Kata kunci: Subjektivitas; Anak Usia Dini, Kehilangan Ayah; Percaya Diri; Karakter Profetik
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